The Autonomy Commission

You love someone
you cannot reach.

Letters for the ones who watch someone they love carry a weight they cannot seem to put down. Read the first one. There is nothing to fix and nothing to sign.

Read the first letter

You will know if these are for you

The weight takes a different shape in everyone. You have watched at least one of these in someone you love.

They carry it all

Everyone leans on them and they will not rest.

They are never really here

Present in body, gone everywhere else.

They give themselves away

Yes to everyone, no to themselves.

Nothing is ever enough

They cannot stop proving, and no win lands.

They will not let you in

You cannot reach their heart through all the reasons.

They are always performing

They cannot step off the stage, even at home.

They cannot let anything go

Everything controlled, and you live braced.

You cannot find them anymore

They have vanished into the part they play.

They are always right

A position instead of their heart, every time.


These letters will not teach you how to fix them. There are no words that do that, and anyone who promises otherwise is selling you something.

What they will do is show you why everything you have tried has not worked, what is actually happening under what you are watching, and the one thing love can do that instruction never will. And somewhere in them, quietly, they will turn out to be about you.


Read the first letter

Leave your email below. I will send you the letters, one at a time, at a pace that lets each one land.

No noise, no selling your address. Leave whenever you want, at the bottom of any letter.

You are not the only one who loves them

Somewhere someone else is lying awake, out of words, sure they are alone in it. Send them the first letter. It asks nothing of the person they love. It only lets them know they are not the only one watching.

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