There are two fires. You are already in one of them.
Not estranged. Not fighting. You will both say "fine" tomorrow, and mostly mean it. But there is a pane of glass in those eight inches, and you stopped noticing it years ago.
You answer the daily questions with answers you assembled long ago. Somewhere you learned which parts of you made things run smoothly and which parts made them grind, and without ever holding a meeting about it, you filed the grinding parts away. The music. The opinions. The wanting.
And you have felt the heat. The flash of anger far too big for the dishwasher. The resentment you are ashamed of. The fantasy of a week alone, where no one needs the character you play. That heat is not a mood. It is combustion. Something is being burned for fuel in your house every day, and you already know what the fuel is.
Have you ever loved your partner for nothing but them?
Not the home. Not the history. Not the kids. Them. Just them. If the honest answer is no, the reason is not your marriage. It is upstream.
It will do something stranger and more permanent. Love arrives through a self the way water arrives through a pipe, and it picks up whatever is in the pipe on the way out. Expectation. Grasping. Performance. The inability to receive. These are not flaws in your love. They are the condition of your identity, dissolved into your love as it passes through.
UNCONSUMED does not work on the relationship. It works on the self, and watches everything downstream run clean as a consequence. Eight weeks. One experiment per week, run on your actual life.
The marriage was never the patient. It was the symptom chart.
UNCONSUMED is identity architecture for the one relationship you are most defended about. Eight weeks, one experiment a week, run on your actual life, ending in a written record of your own interior that did not exist before. The full path, the price, and everything it includes are on the next page.
The slow fire is already running, and it does not stop on its own. It just runs out of you. The only question left is the one worth answering.